To use this dildo, you can either press the suction cup base firmly on a flat surface for hands - free fun or use it with a strap - on harness for partner play. When using, make sure to use water - based lubricant as it's safe with the silicone material. After use, wash it with warm water and mild soap. Then, spritz it with toy cleaner to keep it clean. Keep in mind that this toy is made of silicone, so avoid using oil - based lubricants as they can damage the material. Also, store it in a cool and dry place to maintain its quality.